Alice in Scenesterland ([info]stitchtowhere) wrote,
2008-03-01 13:37:00

SEMANTICS

Dear Speakers of the (MOSTLY FATPHOBIC) English Language,

I don't & have never talked about my fat & weight as an "issue"* or "problem." It's you that does that, and it is tired, and dated, and SO FUCKING ANNOYING. FYI, when you talk about "my weight issue" or "my weight problem" you are, both through your pitious tone & unexamined terminology, implying several shitty things: a) fat & weight are a problem b) you have a problem with fat (and therefore with me) c) that if i don't consider my size a problem, I OUGHT TO. THIS IS BULLSHIT. I DON'T. CEASE & DESIST. IMMEDIATELY. AND NO, APPENDING "BUT WE ALL HAVE WEIGHT PROBLEMS" does not make it any more universal or okay.

Also, while you're at it feel, free to stop using "slimming" and "minimizing" as your ultimate compliment when giving me props on an outfit. I, unlike a spy, stage show puppeteer, cat burgler, or Odo on special ops, DO NOT dress to disappear. My body exists. I occupy physical space, as much as I want/need, and I WILL NOT apologize for it. I WILL NOT, make myself look/feel smaller to better fit your tiny narrow-minded view.

TRY A WHOLE LOT HARDER TO SUCK A WHOLE LOT LESS, OKAY?

no big fat bunches of corpulent love,

stitch



*Fat is certainly an issue. a broad socio-political one for which people experience appaulingly unjust treatment at an institutionalized level. not the teenage kind your parents try to head off by forcing you into bible camp/taking away the car keys on a Friday Night. THANK YOU.
Tags: fat politics, rants, semantics

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[info]aircrash

March 1 2008, 20:17:58 UTC 4 years ago

THANK YOU

*adds to memories*

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:54:15 UTC 4 years ago

<333! love ya darlin!

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[info]coco73

March 1 2008, 21:48:27 UTC 4 years ago

Oh, beautiful! This is such the perfect analogy!

[info]stitchtowhere

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[info]theunrealcity

March 1 2008, 20:52:53 UTC 4 years ago

*applauds*

[info]stitchtowhere

March 5 2008, 20:42:58 UTC 4 years ago

thanks darlin!

[info]coco73

March 1 2008, 21:50:01 UTC 4 years ago

Yes way! What fucking problem?
"BUT WE ALL HAVE WEIGHT PROBLEMS"
How does this even make sense? If we all have a "problem" than doesn't it suggest that no one does?

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:49:18 UTC 4 years ago

yeah it's totally the dismissive. the "but it's universallllllllll" claim invariably gets touted out so that people can justify ignoring personal and political inequalities and their own privilege.

it's really easy for people who don't experience institutionalized hatred to say things like "oh we have all been there. it's fine. get over it."

[info]chavvah

March 1 2008, 21:58:43 UTC 4 years ago

I am RIGHT pissed on your behalf.

P.S. LOLZ @ your DS9 reference. You win so hard.

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:49:49 UTC 4 years ago

a ha ha that DS9 reference was especially there for you & [info]paperandglue!

<3

[info]starmiranda

March 2 2008, 00:25:38 UTC 4 years ago

amen, dear. that shit is fucked up. xoxo

[info]bitsandb0bbins

March 2 2008, 00:39:14 UTC 4 years ago

*cheers!*

you tell 'em.

you are fabulous in a myriad of ways.

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:23:55 UTC 4 years ago

<3!! right back atcha!

[info]ninthscompanion

March 2 2008, 01:22:13 UTC 4 years ago

WRD. You win the car keys every Friday night.

Once after my stepdad had referenced my weight one too many times, I asked him if he had a problem with my weight. When he responded "of course I do," I told him to keep the problem that way -- his. Oh, dad... what a fucker.

And yeah, like I said earlier, if I wanted to make less of myself visible, I'd wear more camo. :P

xoxo, darling.

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:53:36 UTC 4 years ago

i'm impressed that you stood up to your dad! it's only in the last few years that i've felt armed & brave enough to tackle the issues of Fat & HAES with my family!

also camo=STEALTH FATTIES

[info]sundaysunday

March 2 2008, 06:19:45 UTC 4 years ago

I'm still seeing shit like this in fatshionista, too.

http://community.livejournal.com/fatshionista/2536377.html?thread=51762873#t51762873

[info]coco73

March 2 2008, 07:08:31 UTC 4 years ago

Fuck that shit! Fatshionista is rife with this crap, as of late. I think it's time for some more political posts.

How much do you love Mar's responses, though?

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[info]misslizzybear

March 2 2008, 10:23:14 UTC 4 years ago

Awesome post, I totally agree.

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:51:13 UTC 4 years ago

thanks!

[info]meestagoat

March 2 2008, 16:33:39 UTC 4 years ago

Rock.

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:51:24 UTC 4 years ago

<3!

[info]star_power

March 3 2008, 04:47:37 UTC 4 years ago

I love you Cynara!!!! I also love this post!

[info]stitchtowhere

March 4 2008, 03:51:37 UTC 4 years ago

aww i love you too jess! <3!

[info]paigenotpage

March 5 2008, 21:15:01 UTC 4 years ago

Just reading this now. It's great!

[info]stitchtowhere

March 6 2008, 22:35:27 UTC 4 years ago

why thank you, my fellow "junior" co-mod!

[info]buttercup_rocks

March 6 2008, 21:50:39 UTC 4 years ago

Top notch post. I'd never actually heard the phrase "weight problem" before an American friend of mine said in passing; "my sister has even more of a weight problem than I do". I had no idea what she was on about, especially as she wasn't especially fat, but something about the term has always bugged me and you just put your finger smack bang in the middle of why.

[info]stitchtowhere

March 6 2008, 22:32:21 UTC 4 years ago

thanks! so you don't encounter this kind of "problem" terminology in the UK, then? Curious & revealing, too. Our W Network has picked up quite a few British design & home oriented programs &, while i'm sure fatphobia exists in the UK & it's media, i've noticed that in the British television programs i watch, the presenters look far less photoshopped & nipped & tucked & airbrushed than those on North American television. It's really refreshing to watch them!

& btw, how do you feel about a mutual lj friending? (i, personally feel it's overdue!)

[info]stitchtowhere

4 years ago

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